How My Kids Are Raising Me

+ J. M. J.

“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant; later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

Hebrews 12:11, RSV-CE

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"The Virgin and Child with Saint Anne and Saint John the Baptist" ~1500, Leonardo da Vinci

When it comes to dirty diapers and consistent child discipline and everything that goes with raising children the constant theme is doing for others, doing for others and even more doing for others.

It would be easy if not for the fact that it’s not.

They have told me that young parenthood is the hardest.

It does get better. And as a very young mother I can’t tell you how it feels when it does. I’m in the same boat! But I do know that it will happen when we accept what love is all about. We have the theory but lack the experience.

The early years of marriage and kids are the “what won’t break you will make you stronger” years. Suddenly most things become partnership decisions. And then come watchful little eyes learning how to be by your example.

Somewhere along the line all the “I wants” get replaced with the “What can I do for you?”s.

And once you get there, and you will young mamas!, things will be easier. Not that the kids will never get the flu or never want to beat each other over the head with plastic lightsabers. That part won’t get easier. But how you deal with it will be, because you’ve fought the good fight enough times that you don’t think about the “I wants” the way you used to.

So cherish these days! You’ll look back on them and be glad for them. While you were busy raising your kids, they helped raise you, too!