+ J. M. J.
My sweet honey comes home from work, hunched over from hard work and lungs filled with dust, and what does he do? He puts the kids in their high chairs, volunteers to clean them up after supper because I “have had them all day and must be exhausted.” He then changes their diapers and then, just before bed, he helps put them in pajamas, brush their teeth and hair and wants to be the one who reads them a bedtime story.
He is a great husband and father.
I was laid off this week. That is okay. I am a full time stay at home mom. Wow, it is an adjustment. But it is the vocation I am 100% convinced I am called to. It’s my life’s dream.
Before Bed Routine
1. 7:00 Get the children ready for bed (30 min)
- Walk them through their BBR
- Pray together as a family, read a book & tuck the children in bed (7:30)
2. Clean up the house before you go to bed (30 min)
- 5 minute room rescues – living room, bedrooms, bathroom
- Kitchen – clean it up, shine sink, lay out clean dishcloths
- 5 minute hot spots – dining table & desk
3. Think about tomorrow before you go to bed (20 min)
- Check your calendar for appointments
- Start a to do list for tomorrow
- Ask myself & hubby: “What can be done that will make tomorrow morning easier?”
- Gather items you don’t want to forget and place them by the door
- Start breakfast – set the table & make a mental note for breakfast
- If you plan to use the slow cooker, get some ingredients ready
- Lay out your clothes for tomorrow
4. Cool down before going to bed (20 min)
- Get yourself ready for bed
- Brush your teeth, wash your face and comb your hair
- Take vitamins
- Pray together
5. Spend screen-free time with hubby
- Make some tea for hubby & myself
- Chart! Be in bed by 10:00
First Thing Morning Routine
1. 5:30 Rise and shine!
- Make your bed
- Work out
- Go into the bathroom; shower and clean it while you’re there
- Dress to shoes; fix your hair & face
- Swipe the counter & Swish the toilet
- Leaving the living room with a load of laundry in hand and go straight to the washer
2. The kitchen
- (If you BBR) The kitchen is clean and all you need to do is empty the dish drainer!
- Make coffee and tea and start breakfast
- Prepare breakfast
3. Think about your day
- ASK HUBBY BEFORE HIS SHOWER HOW I CAN HELP HIM OUT THE DOOR (fill a travel mug of coffee, etc)
- Check your calendar
- Make your to do list
- Dinner prep
- Review checking account and bring down the balance
- Hit the hot spots, if any are messy
4. Now think about yourself
- Take vitamins
- Sit down and relax for a moment
- Reboot the laundry (put it in the dryer)
- Reward yourself with some computer time
5. Get the children ready for the day
- Wake them up at 7:00!
- Walk them through their morning routine
- Eat breakfast together
- Set the timer for 10 minutes: Clean up chairs, floor mats,, dishes and kitchen
- Now you’re free to play until lunchtime and it isn’t even 8am!
Naptime Tidy Up
- 5 minute room rescues – Living room, Bathroom, Bedrooms (15 min)
- Fold & put away laundry (15 min)
- Put away dishes & wash any that are dirty (15 min)
- Get drinks & snacks ready for kids (5 min)
1. Set the mood for a peaceful suppertime (start at 4:15)
- Spend a couple minutes freshening your face
- Set supper table
- Start supper. Fill the sink with hot, soapy water and wash dishes as you go
- Light candles
- Put on some nice music
- Pick up a couple hot spots
2. Get supper cleaning out of the way (30 min)
- Timer 10 min: Wipe down the high chairs, trays, table and floor mats
- Timer 15 min: Put the food away. Wash those few dishes that are left.
- Timer 5 minutes: Take out all upstairs trash.
Without a plan I do not get very much done. That is the way of it. This is how I have been spending my first days as a stay at home mommy. Well, the Morning and Before Bed have happened mostly. I am not used to washing dishes and folding laundry every day. And I fight insomnia. Baby steps in the right direction.
Ora et labora!